“The past is behind, learn from it. The future is ahead, prepare for it. The present is here, live it.” – Thomas S. Monson
Life has a lot of curveballs and bumpy roads and because of that we learn from the experiences. That’s not to say it was fun or the best for us in the moment. It is a learning experience so that we know what to look out for, how to handle it again, and how to prepare for the rest of the curveballs and bumpy roads.
Given the hurdles life has thrown in my path there are quite a few pieces of advice that I would share with my younger self. All of which would have drastically changed the hurdles that I dealt with. People always say hindsight is 20/20 and damn, they’re right! I cannot go back and change the past, I can only look at my present and into my future with hope that because of what I have learned over the years I will he much safer and happier.
That being said I would give myself the following advice:
- Do not trust so easily. It does more harm than good. This would have prevented so much. /:
- Speak your mind, always.
- Do you. Fuck what everyone else thinks.
- Keep your friend circle small.
- Don’t buy into people without getting to know them. They’re more than likely doing the cool thing to fit in.
- Always put yourself first because no one else will.
As a mom of three girls it worries me that they will eventually be off on there own without the guidance of their dad and I. I can only hope that we have taught them everything they will need to know to be the best them they can be.
Don’t compromise your individuality just to be “cool”. Just be yourself – like what you like, do what you want to do, take the time to invest in something you’re passionate about, and don’t worry about fitting in. There’s going to be someone out there that likes you for you.
Learn to let go of friends who are not as eager by the friendship you think you share. Walk away from a friendship if you have to keep putting in all the effort for it to stay afloat.
No one is worth it but you. Be kind and considerate, as usual, but ALWAYS remember that you come first. Big key to happiness.
Be confident. Be confident with yourself and your choices.
Relationships are not 50/50! They’re 100/100 and if your partner, friend, whatever is not putting in their part, let it go.
What is some advice you would have given your younger self? Given what you know now, what would you have warned your younger self about? Let me know in the comments!